I’ve been dreading this post all week. I’m certain it is meant to be a funny embarrassing moment, mine is embarrassing but not so funny. Anyone whom I’ve doula’d for, if you have a funny one you can share, please do.
The only embarrassing moment I can think of is that time that a ad for a weekend holiday to Paris for not only mothers day weekend but Mateo’s 16th birthday weekend came across my newsfeed. Mateo is fluent in French and has quite a passion for France. We were just months from moving back stateside and I thought, how memorable and special would it be for him to spend his 16th birthday in Paris!? I got right on the phone with the travel agency, they still had room, I texted Andy, he had the time off. Wow, meant to be, I was SO excited to be able to do this for Mateo. I called back the travel agent and paid for the non-refundable trip. Key word, non-refundable…a hour later…I remember I’m not just a mum to a 16 year old but a doula and that I have committed to a mama due that weekend.
Whoa, that was a embarrassing phone call. I felt HORRIBLE. Cande was so awesome about it and was totally comfortable with the back up doula we had in place but that didn’t change how terrible I felt. There was the a chance that baby would wait until I got home but that was not the case. Baby Neely came that Sunday on our bus ride back to the ferry in Calais.
Mateo had a amazing birthday to remember and Cande and I had Mothers Day’s not to forget.
My doula sisters, women genuinely serving & supporting women! I feel so blessed to have a tribe of women in my life who are loving and kind souls. Women who care for each other, want to teach and share what they know, work together for the better of birth and are not competitive with one another.
For my doula sisters, doula’ing is not just a business, it comes from their heart. They love women and want to serve them and better their birth experience by offering them options and choices and loving them in their most vulnerable moments.
These beautiful women are talented and passionate, some are doula trainers, some are childbirth educators, some are nurses that want to serve their patients better by having the physical and emotional support training as a doula, some are Spinning Babies and “changing birth on earth”, some are lactation consultants or counselors, some are placenta encapsulators, some are aromatherapists, some are belly binders, some are experts in ceremonies such as “closing the bones” or “mother blessings”, some are baby carrier experts, some are prenatal yoga instructors and teaching evidence based birth to all birth workers, some are bereavement doulas, some are massage therapists, and some are working on goals of becoming midwives. Each one is brilliant and are passionate about sharing what they know with each other.
I love and trust these women deeply and am so grateful to have each of them in my life. (I would tag each of you but would surely forget someone and that would not be my intention).
I always mention to dads in our prenatal visits that they can ASK to catch their own baby if that is something they desire. Not all providers are willing to step back and give dads this honor. However, while stationed at RAF Lakenheath, England the majority of my clients ASKED and did have this joy! Even providers that originally said no, by the time it was push time, they changed their minds and dads gloved up. Sadly since being back stateside this hasn’t happened once for my clients. Regardless, always ASK! This is your baby and there are no do-overs on birth day. If it’s something you want, find a provider that supports your wishes!! Birth Matters!! #DoulasBenefitEveryone